Category Archives: Liberating Health

13 Hope-Filled Lessons from Illness

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Have you received treatment that was worse than your illness?

For the past 2 weeks, I’ve been caught in a snowball of side effects from medication. What started with a routine sinus infection ended up into a host of new symptoms.

I’m a petite, yet typically healthy woman that visits her doctor about once a year. Yet, in one week, I was prescribed 10 different medications and given 3 referrals to specialists. I was told it would be a long road, and I may have to learn to live with the symptoms.

Guess what the cure was? Gradually getting off all the medication that was tearing up my stomach and beginning to eat and sleep again. Now, my sinuses are fantastic and my body is repairing itself.

What helps you get through illness? Illness happens to all of us. It’s how we deal with it that makes the difference between staying stuck or being liberated.

Illness as an Opportunity for Growth

1.   Find joy in the smallest things. Focus even for a moment on one thing that brings you joy. For me, it was a hug, a song, a breath.

2.   Focus on what is most important to you. For me, it is my family, my spouse, and my two kids. I was determined to make it through this medical “crisis,” so I could continue my relationships with family.

3.   Think of medication as a jump start. Medication is like jumper cables. Once the ignition starts, our bodies can heal themselves.

“You can receive too much of a good thing, because sometimes the treatment is more problematic than the illness.” ~ Margaret Otto

4.   Don’t over-focus on symptoms. It’s more useful to focus on how you   react to the symptoms, instead of the fact that you have the symptoms.

5.   Anxiety can make any symptom worse. When you join your fear, you can no longer see the facts surrounding the illness. Anxiety tells you that your symptoms are permanent and that something is wrong with your body. This isn’t always the truth, as many symptoms come and go.

6.   Find a calm person that believes in you. Look for someone to lead you out. If you aren’t facing an ongoing disease, find someone who believes your body will heal itself. For me, it is my spouse, my coach, and my chiropractor.

7.   People can be like tranquilizers. Comfort from a loved one can feel just as good as taking anti-anxiety medication. Turn to others for reassurance more than caretaking, and you will feel the calming, empowering effect without any side effects.

8.   Problems are bigger than the individual. Well-intentioned medical professionals and family members’ reactions can be bigger than the illness. This makes it hard for the individual to gain their own footing in getting better.

“The medical and family system’s reaction to illness can be bigger than the actual illness/symptoms.” ~ Margaret Otto

9.  Answer your own questions. You know what is best for you. Even if you have self-doubt, there is almost always something you are sure about. Focus on what works and doesn’t work for you, instead of leaning on others to answer your own questions.

10.   Define and hold onto your own thinking. I was trying to be a compliant patient, more than listen to my own thoughts and body’s signals. I lost my own thinking when I joined my doctor’s thinking that there is something wrong with my body. When I found my thinking that I was experiencing side effects, not illness, I was on my way to getting better.

“When you join the medical model of pathology, you start to believe there is something wrong with your body, “ ~ Margaret Otto

11.   Medical treatment is an expensive snowball. When not treating a disease, it is more cost effective to let your body repair itself with wholesome, soothing foods, nutrient rich water, healing supplements, and great coaching.

12.   Body repair is possible and takes time. Often, we seek medical treatment to speed up the healing process. A body can repair itself, but it can’t be rushed. If you ever experience problematic treatment or side effects from powerful medications, know it won’t become a chronic condition. It will pass.

13.   Crisis is ripe for learning. There is never a better time to learn than after a crisis. You will never be more motivated to change. And, you will be able to see things more clearly than during calm times. Take advantage of this time to grow and find a new way – a liberating way.

This is the most personal post I’ve written to date. I have learned so much from this crisis that I am bursting to share it with you. Know that I don’t blame the medical system; they had a part in my getting worse, but so did I.

I leave you with this hope. You can make it through a crisis, and may even find yourself in a better place than before the crisis.

Discussion Question: When is medical treatment useful and when is it not?

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Recognition: A special thank you to my systems coach. Without you coaching me to look at the symptoms in the context of the system, I’d probably still be sitting by the toilet.

Disclaimer: This post is a composite of what is working for me. Please do not let this replace your own thinking, but let it act as a jump start to uncover what  works for you. I do not have an ongoing disease or illness, so each idea may or may not apply to you.

Photo Credit: “Valley & Peak” by Rohit Gowaikar

What To Do When You Can’t Sleep

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I adore sleep. Resting in a gentle cocoon of blankets. Shielding me from my to-do list. When I’m asleep, I completely let go, float, and ride the easy waves of my breath.

Is your sleep always this peaceful and restful? About once a year, I go through a month of insomnia. I look for causes, maybe it’s allergies, stress, overworking, or hormonal changes. No matter what I try, I still wake up in the middle of the night, unable to return to sleep.

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I could easily get stuck on the insomnia-worry-go round. Instead of worrying about never getting another good night of sleep, I am working on accepting the way it is. I’ve decided it’s my body’s way of resetting my brain (and maybe my life).

I’m choosing a new way to think about insomnia. Because the more I worry about it, the more awake I stay. When my mind is racing, my body has a hard time relaxing.

Worry is one of the biggest contributors to insomnia. Once you have trouble sleeping, you usually start to worry about not sleeping. You can see how hard it can be to get off the worry-go-round once you start spinning.

7 Ways to Manage Worry about Insomnia:

It’s time to get off the worry-go-round, and find your personal way of embracing what is. If you have great sleep hygiene but are unable to drift back to sleep, what do you do?

  • Get out of bed and read a novel in dim light. When you feel yourself start to drift off, return to bed.
  • Stay in bed and practice deep breathing, meditation, or calming yoga poses.
  • Find something relaxing to do for 8 hours while fasting from electronic devices. No cleaning, work, texting, etc.
  • Don’t watch your clock tick, calculating how many hours until work or school starts.
  • For a morning pick me up, drink less coffee. Instead give green teaa try.
  • Know that your sleep will return. Remember, this too will pass.
  • If your insomnia doesn’t pass, it’s okay to consult your physician regarding sleep aids. There are medications and supplements that won’t add to your next day fatigue and drowsiness.

Although I love to get a restful night of sleep, I know I can’t force it to happen. Instead of focusing on what if I never sleep well again, I focus on drifting on waves of relaxation.

What helps you manage your worry about insomnia?

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Photo Credit: “Relax” by Scarleth White

5 Individualized Steps for Weight Loss Success

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Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Paige Weber.

Have you ever been frustrated with watching the scale go up and down? And, tired of feeling like your weight is out of your control. I used to feel this way.

Now, I’m excited to share how I designed my own program to improve my health, with the bonus of being 70 lbs. lighter. And, you can too!

5 Individualized Steps for Weight Loss Success:

1.   The Game Plan – Develop a plan that incorporates diet and exercise.

When I started losing weight, my trainer told me it is 80 % diet and 20 % exercise.  I had worked hard on both nutrition and exercise, but not at the same time. Combining both of these ingredients is what has brought me success.

Weight loss starts with planning.  I eat 5 small meals a day, each meal consisting of carbs, protein and vegetables (with a calorie range of 150 to 400 calories per meal). Find a meal plan that works with your lifestyle and for you.

For me, bulk cooking for the week makes it easier to stick to my plan.   For example, I will cook 2-3 pans of chicken, and put them in several different recipes. If you need help creating your own meal plan, try www.sparkpeople.com.

2.  The Real Issues – Replace emotional eating with non-food coping skills.

Everyone has positive and negative coping skills for life’s challenges. How else do you comfort yourself without eating? For me, having a good support system has aided successful weight loss. Whether you talk with a friend, family  member or a counselor, it’s important to discover what contributes to emotional eating.

Never feel shame when you eat something off your diet, but do learn to eat in moderation.  Eating smaller meals helps me to curb overeating. I also cut down on cravings, by spreading out my carbs. Overeating has become harder, because my stomach gets full faster with these changes.

3.  Sweat It Out – Find an exercise plan that works for you.

Learn to use exercise as a positive coping skill. Make exercise a habit. Don’t workout based on how you feel today, but on how you would like to feel some day.  I took me about 6 months of exercising almost every day before I started to like working out!

My ideal workout is to break up weight lifting and cardio exercises. Start by simply walking regularly, and work your way up to your ideal workout. It’s not what exercise plan you choose, it’s that you choose a plan and stick with it.

4.  The Real Goal – Identify the real reasons you want to lose weight.

Find motivation to lose weight by getting to the real reason behind your goal. Do you want to lose weight to improve your health or for a special event? And, if you think that losing weight alone will improve your self esteem, think again.

5.  One Pound At A Time – Be open to learning instead of self-criticism.

When it comes to weight loss, most people want to start by doing the math.  For example, my self-talk math looks like this: “If I lose 2 lbs. a week and want to lose 60 lbs. total, then that will take 30 weeks…that’s most of the the year…ah!  I don’t want this to take so long!” Then, five minutes after doing the math, I would reach for a bag of chips.

I have learned to not over focus on the numbers, but instead learn from my weight changes. I focus on learning what’s helping or hindering my weight loss. It’s not a failure if I don’t lose weight in a week, it’s a learning opportunity.

Weight loss success is individualized, so make it your own. It starts with a choice to change your lifestyle. Do it for yourself, not to just fit into those skinny jeans!

What’s working for you? Does healthy weight loss start with emotional or physical changes?

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Paige Weber has lived in the Kansas City (Missouri) metro area for over 12 years. Paige believes that with hard work and determination, any goal can be accomplished. Now, she’s rocking her own weight loss goals with the Kansas City Fitness Challenge.

 

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Photo Credit: “Two Runners Smiling” by Mike Baird