I was recently asked if I could summarize what makes a marriage work in one word. And I honestly can’t. I have so many words to share with you.
In an attempt to keep it simple, I think marriage satisfaction increases when you work on yourself. And not just taking good care of yourself, but also caring for how you think and interact with your spouse.
Most marriage advice tells you how to get your relationship where you want it to be or how to get your spouse to meet your needs better. Well I am going to throw a wrench in these ideas, because I think both of these can make a marriage more miserable.
Think about it this way. If you think you know how your marriage needs to look or your spouse needs to be, then you are interacting with pressure and expectations instead of openness and respect.
It can be so hard to admit it, but we are part of the problem and luckily part of the solution too. Marriages do take work, but it’s working on ourselves not the relationship or our spouse that grows relationships.
Sharing My Top 10 Relationship Growing Tips
Not convinced yet? I have compiled what I think are the 10 best emotion and relationship tips I know so far. Read on and tell me what you think in the comments section.
Tip #4: Communicate Anger Without Blame
Tip #9: Resurrect Your Sexy Self
While I haven’t given you a simple, quick fix solution for your marriage problems, I imagine you’d rather start working on self than waiting for your spouse to change. Even if you have to keep working on yourself every day, you will be boosting your own confidence and ability to interact personally along the way.
I’m always learning too, so I hope to keep adding and clarifying my list as I grow. I’ve spent far too many days trying to shape up my man, so I will spend the rest of them learning how to love my man better and how to be my best self.
Photo Credit: “Life’s Options” by Pink Sherbet